From experience, training and meditation I have developed a model for sexual healing from the masculine towards the feminine which can have a positive life changing impact.  The natural state of feminine energy is to be in flow.  The feminine is more present in the now than the masculine and in its pure state, is oceanic bliss.

In this description I’m going to use the terms “feminine” and “woman” or “masculine” and “man” broadly interchangeably although I am very aware that whilst most men are predominantly masculine, and most women predominantly feminine, we all contain both elements with in us and this varies from person to person.

Life, relationships and wounding from childhood and later, can all teach a woman that it’s not safe to be in this fluid, relaxed state.  This can often be in relation to woundings received from men – emotional, physical or sexual, or simply the absence of a masculine presence.  Women learn to protect themselves by putting up shells and this stops them from being in their flow and state of bliss.

Much of this tension is stored in the body and can be released by creating a safe space for a woman to open up into and relax into her natural state of bliss.

My model for this is linked to that of the chakras.  For a woman to open up requires trust.  For the man to truly engender this he must come, as much as possible, from a place of respect and surrender to the goddess.  From this place, and without agenda, I create a safe holding space into which the feminine can flow.

To get a woman to open her body requires a degree of trust.  This opening is related to the base and second chakras.  To do this I, from my masculine, must create a safe container of trustability and acceptance for the client.

To get a woman to open her feelings, especially those old, long stored wounds, requires a larger, stronger container and a greater degree of trust. These emotions are stored in the second and third chakras.

To get a woman to open her heart (fourth chakra), the container must be stronger still.  And so on up the chakras.  Each one opening more fully as the container grows and a greater degree of safety is felt by the woman.  During this cycle the feminine is safely held by the masculine and this empowers her to dissolve into her natural state of bliss, releasing any tensions and wounding that she has been holding.

Eventually, if a safe enough container can be created to allow the feminine to open her third eye (sixth chakra) and connect with her crown, she ceases to be a representation of the goddess and BECOMES the goddess.  At this moment she IS divine Shakti energy.  She becomes all of creation, all which is manifest.  In this state I, as the masculine, can only surrender fully to the fullness of her power and beauty.